Is the New Urban Thesaurus?

What if you walked into a classroom and all the redheads were made to sit, facing the classroom from the outside schoolyard.  They can’t participate.  They’re still considered students, but banned from school pictures because the school principal has something against gingerly affections.

That’s how the 4.5 million words we’ve cataloged feel.  They were stamped to “TOO VULGAR” and sent to a prison for unruly, offensive idioms!  It’s like telling a word, you are not good enough.  You’re not worthy to be written in the history books.  Shesaurus does not discriminate against any word no matter how absurd or derogatory.  Words are a part of history.  They tell stories.  Initially, Noah Webster’s Dictionary was poorly received, cited as being too vulgar.  Can you imagine the dictionary being too vulgar?!

Culturally conservative Federalists denounced the work as radical—too inclusive in its lexicon and even bordering on vulgar. Meanwhile Webster’s old foes the Republicans attacked the man, labeling him mad for such an undertaking.[43]  Scholars have long seen Webster’s 1844 dictionary to be an important resource for reading poet Emily Dickinson‘s life and work; she once commented that the “Lexicon” was her “only companion” for years.  Source: Wikipedia/ Noah Webster

Millennial’s idea of a thesaurus isn’t the same as your Great-gram-gram’s idea.  The only curse word I ever heard my mother say was “damn” and I promise the roof shook when she said it.  Not because she summoned some evil demon from its caged sarcophagus, but because my brother and I were rolling on the floor, laughing our asses off!

I remember hearing the word ‘tranny’ as a kid wondering what it meant.  Since no one was adult enough to explain it, I ran to the only source I could think of.  The dictionary.  It wasn’t there either. Curses, I say!   Isn’t the dictionary suppose to answer all my nefarious questions?!

Today we have online dictionaries like, Urban Dictionary to solve our neologistical street problems.  BUT, what if I want to use another word other than “Bitch” to describe my protagonist?  Bitch has been watered down to the point of becoming it’s own basic bitch.  As a writer, sometimes you may want to release your inner word nerd savage and read a Bitch like a Shesaurus!

Let’s look at the word Vixen and compare what other sites offer for synonyms.  Because Shesaurus focus mainly on alternatives, we’re able to provide a broader scope of related terms. – Vixen
Shesaurus defines Vixen
Urban Dictionary – Vixen
Urban Dictionary alternatives for Vixen – Vixen alternatives for Vixen

We love words!  Bad words, dirty words and nasssssty naughty words.  Why should sexy or slutty terms be given the Hester Prynne treatment for existing?  They are a part of history too!  Shakespeare is riddled with vulgarity and sexual innuendos and it’s required reading in high school.  Why should reference sites be any different?  What exactly are we learning by forcing the gingers out of the classroom?

Our world is growing and I truly believe our reference books should grow with it.  We owe history a lesson in honesty for a change.  And today, we owe society a true thesaurus that provides alternatives for even the most unflattering terms, no matter how disgusting they are.  You’re welcome!

kolaKeshia Kola is the lexicographer of this vulgar nonsense.  If you want to avoid some drunken word nerd showing up to your hardworking establishment to eat all of your hard-earned glazed donuts, please follow @keshiakola.


#WasteHisTime2016 and the Emergence of Emotionally Unavailable Women – by Rachel Ndubuisi

A few days ago, Twitter went crazy with a new hashtag, “Waste His Time 2016“.  A few gems from this hashtag craze are:

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There are tons other and they can be found on Twitter by simply searching #WasteHisTime2016. The main point behind these tweets was to flip the script on your average player aka fuckboy and pay them the same treatment that they have given women.

It’s like satire, paralleling the instances in which men lead women on for extended amounts of time, getting to know her, and feigning interest while they may have only been in search of sex and/or attention.

On a surface level, this can either seem quite harsh or hilarious depending on your experiences with the opposite sex. While I read these, I found them hilarious because I was finally seeing women give men a taste of their own medicine, even if it was just a hashtag on Twitter.

There are many memes and jokes detailing the delicate gender dynamics between men and women such as:

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So, it’s interesting to see the tables are turning with women (albeit jokingly) becoming the emotionally unavailable counterpart.

Reading the Waste His Time 2016, reminded me of the latest Love and Hip Hop: New York episode. For those that don’t know, it’s a reality show on Vh1 based on the lives of about 10 New Yorkers in the music and entertainment business. One of the main stars, Cardi B meets with another of the stars, Mariahlynn and they have a discussion about their relationship with men.

Cardi B is in the GIF below.
Cardi B

They both go into their new sentiments on their relationships with men and how they’re now only dealing with men for what they have to offer rather than for a relationship. They’ve become emotionally unavailable and are using these men for their connections in the music and entertainment business, rather than relying on these men for emotional partners and relationships.

Emotional unavailability alongside, a fear/disdain for commitment have been traits often attributed to men, with women trying and wondering why they can’t get these men to be emotionally available and committed. Women have a long list of grievances when it comes to dating men, and therefore witnessing the emergence of emotionally unavailable women puts a slight smirk on my face.

I don’t see this solving anything, nor do I see it repairing the obviously damaged gender dynamics between men and women. It will, however, give insight into how we feel and in giving them a slight taste of their medicine, maybe they will understand the annoyance, and the pain in having someone that you may have been interested in, not only be uninterested in you but also waste your time simply because they can.

There has been some outrage about these tweets because  these type of women anger men, simply because they are not accustomed to women that do not need them to feel complete. Women are often trained from a very young age to be a “good wife” and to be a good companion to a man. We aren’t often taught to be independent and even when you are encouraged to be independent and be yourself, society is always there to remind you that your worth, first and foremost lies in your ability to get a male partner.

Consider the modern horror story of the lonely career woman. She spent too much time focusing on her career; making her too independent, too assertive and unable to find a man. Therefore, she is to either settle for any Tom, Dick & Harry that comes her way or deal with a life of loneliness and stigmatization.

Despite her accomplishments, she will be looked down up  simply because she is alone. They will say it serves her right because that is the price that you pay when you choose to focus on something else other than finding a man. The life of a spinster holds no value in this society.

For reasons such as these, men have grown to see themselves as  requirements to complete women and because of this mindset, they feel as though they are essential and irreplaceable parts of a woman’s life; which gives them free reign to treat women in anyway they deem fit.

In contrast, women are viewed as replaceable to be traded in or deprived of love and companionship at the slightest grievance. Men aren’t taught that they need women to complete them. They are taught to own women, as acquisitions for sex and comfort. The bachelor life is coveted, and upon marriage, it is seen as losing a prized possession.

Therefore the idea of men becoming replaceable, as women often are for them, infuriates them. The idea of sharing the same societal standards as women can prove infuriating for some and rightfully so.

They are finally being confronted by women that simply don’t need them.

Women that aren’t swayed by kind words.

Women that don’t need their attention.

Women that do not need to be completed.

That makes a lot of men very uncomfortable.

If their masculinity is rooted in their need to complete a woman, they should be very uncomfortable and afraid.

While this is simply a twitter hashtag gone viral, it would be unwise to chalk this up to mindless internet banter. The sentiments behind these tweets are real, and should be taken seriously.

Writer’s Block:  Rachel Ndubuisi

Rachel Ndubuisi

   Rachel Ndubuisi, Fashionista – The House of Ndubuisi

When I began focusing on fashion, and how I chose to express myself through my style, I have found love and confidence for my body, this vessels that miraculously carries and nurtures me. I’ve found a deep appreciation for myself outside of the sexualization and objectification that society places on it.

With fashion, I found an inner love for myself. I took pride in myself and how I dressed myself and it brought me an intense sense of happiness and accomplishment to truly like what I see when I look in the mirror.

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I’m Going to Piss Off 8,447,313 Women With This Website

Oh and the entire LGBT community, my apologies in advance!  According to my co-pilot, Stoner Dan, the above number is off by 2 billion. Yikes!  Let’s just be clear before any knives are thrown!  My intentions are never to hurt, discriminate or abuse ANYONE.  Words hurt.   I know, I was a teenager once!  I created this project from a women’s and writer’s perspective. I’d hear various forms of Bitch, Beeeotch, Bach, Beyotches thrown around and Perez Hilton rightfully scolding Bad lil’ Girls at their Reunion, “Can we use another word other than Bitch?!”

Yes, yes we can!  One of the awesome features about the Shesaurus, is that it does provide alternatives to unsavory, politically incorrect terms not found in your typical dictionary-thesaurus. There’s an abundance of terms that made me cringe, but I could not discriminate against any word no matter how repulsed I was to include it.  Hell, we work with people we don’t like everyday, unfortunately we can’t just cane or stone them because they don’t function properly in society.  Same with words and Cincinnati police officers.  Ok, we punished a few terms by stamping them with a big fat derogatory warning, abbreviated as Derog.  Now, there!

As a writer I’ve always wanted a resource guide that provides options for even the most unflattering, disgustingly vulgar synonyms not found in your typical dictionary or thesaurus. However, our language is expanding and growing. I hear the young and old sharing curious venacular on the streets, in music and my favorite blogs like DListed. answers questions like, “What is a White Liver Lady or What the hell is a Ratchet?”  What sets this site apart from the rest is, we also answer questions like, “What is another word for a Bull dyke, Lipstick lesbian, Goldie Cocks, Cougar or a gay male cougar?  I’ve actually had people ask me that!  And since Sheryl Sandberg, Beyonce and Condoleezza Rice are banning “Bossy,” what other stunt-cunty words can we use in its place?

We all know I didn’t create these words. I merely composed, categorized, catalogued, slaved, created witty definitions, researched, re-wrote, re-research, double-checked facts and spent over 682,473, 529 hours and 8 years putting this concept together. And will continue for another 25,649,773 hours maintaining, updating and collecting these constellation of words until we reach our goals.  Did you know Noah Webster  was 70 when he published the American Dictionary of the English Language and passed away before the first “Webster’s Dictionary” was ever officially published?   He was called crazy and his original research was denounced as radical and too vulgar.

 “It is often forgotten that (dictionaries) are artificial repositories, put together well after the languages they define. The roots of language are irrational and of a magical nature.” – Jorge Luis Borges/ “El otro, el mismo”

With so many dictionaries, slang sites and thesauri out there, what makes the Shesaurus-Hesaurus reference project any different?  I’m glad you asked!  We offer French!  If you didn’t already know French, you’re in for an awe inspiring Rosetta Stone treat! This site is riddled with such atrocities!  We pride ourselves on being blatantly honest with sublte vulgarity.  It worked for Webster!

Our goals are simple.  We want to grow and catalog gender-based terms!  To help define your next protagonist.  We want that “Webster” longevity and reliability!  To build an awesome ride or die writing community and partner with Final Draft or other amazing software programs.  And who wouldn’t want to have their site celebrated on HuffPost’s,  7 Sites You Should Be Wasting Time On Right Now, by Katla Mclynn.

New phrases and terms are coined everyday and yesterday’s dictionaries aren’t keeping up!  I learned a great deal researching these terms and the feedback has been surprisingly supportive. Whether you like it or not, slanguage resource sites like this are needed. We dare to go where no other reference book has gone before, which is the primary role of a dictionary or thesaurus.

“Teaching users about words they don’t already know has been, historically, a primary aim of lexicography, and modern dictionaries do this well.  But occasionally, before committing to a word, you like to stop and commune with it, give it a look-over and see what the dictionary has to say about it.” – David Skinner/ The Role of a Dictionary

thCAR4SC65Keshia Kola is the authur of the Shesaurus & Hesaurus dictionary-thesaurus series.    A proud chubby chaser, novice angler, candy crusher and creator of blogs; The Puerile Score & Celebrity’s Guide to Prison.  Contact:

How to Use This Site

This reference guide is for those who shy away from derogatory words and would like alternative versions to terms like; bitch, whore, bugfucker, crab hag, old maid, prostitute or dare I say it, fa**ot.  I personally hate that word.

The Shesaurus/ Hesaurus are the only gender-based dictionary thesauri of its kind.  We have molested various reference guides and media outlets to compile this masterpiece of mischiefness.

There are three main tabs on the homepage:  ShesaurusHesaurus Add Words

To search Male related terms, click on the Hesaurus tab.
To search Female related terms, click on the Shesaurus tab.
Generally the main page was designed to search all idioms in either database, but our database administrator clearly has an alcohol problem!  If you happen to search for a term that’s NOT  in our database, you will receive the following error:
         The word you searched does not exist!
If you want to add this word to our dictionary then just visit Add New Word

The word probably is in our database hiding under the vodka along with our research team, but for the sake of porn,  Click on Add New Word, enter the word and we’ll look it up for you!
*Fields are required entries.  If you don’t know the definition, enter “don’t know” or “look it up for me asshole!”
*Pseudonyms are at your creative leisure.  Because most of the writers here are notorious stoners, we’ve elected to knight them nobility, not as Dukes, Earls or Lords but as:  Stoner Dan & Stoner Kola.  *Select the type of dictionary (Shesaurus/Hesaurus) the word belongs in, *check the terms & conditions box and click add my word!


For a list of recently viewed terms, check out the box on the right side of the screen:
You can either click or hover over the term for the definition.  We recommend clicking on words, because it provides clickable synonyms or related terms that you can also use:

We are constantly researching and updating new terms to make this a powerful resource guide for all!  If you would like to provide feedback on the Shesaurus site please contact our administrator, Keshia Kola,

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